The other day I came to a little realisation that a lot of the time I can be a pretty serious person. After all, I’ve passed the age of 25, I should be all grown up by now hey? I’ve always been one to play by the rules and keep others best interests at heart, no matter what the situation or scenario is. It’s almost as though there is a big side to my personality that has this disease to please. Well, most of the time anyways!
So, with this realisation I decided to play a little light hearted joke on my friend. Because to be honest, this little part inside of me was so over being serious all the bloody time!
Perfectionism and people pleasing has always been a thing for me. I won’t submit work to my boss unless I’ve read over it a countless amount of times. And for some reason I’ll spell check like three times, because apparently once isn’t enough. I’m meticulous with my emails, everything is neatly ordered into folders and labeled, ask me to find an email from 8 years ago and I’ll be able to pin-point exactly which folder it’s in without blinking an eyelid. I check that I’ve turned off the lights, locked the doors, turned off the stove, etc. multiple times before I’m ready to go to bed at night.
I know. I have OCD. I take life (and myself) pretty seriously most of the time.
So seriously that sometimes it’s really hard for me to have a joke or a laugh with family and friends.
And then I thought, what would happen if I lightened up and did something cheeky, like deleted an incoming email before opening it up to have a read… oopsies… reality check – Life will still go on right?
It really took some serious looking within and journaling to come to this realisation the other day, and after being a little cheeky towards my friend I began to appreciate that, for me, a certain feeling of freedom mixed with joy came from throwing away the rules and “being bad” so to speak. As long as no one gets hurt or offended, who cares really? It’s not like I stole from someone, or walked away from the grocery store without paying for my fruits and veggies, or put my friends life in danger…
All I did was put a tiny post it note under the sensor on her computer mouse. Harmless really! 😀
When she returned from the kitchen to show me her amazing creation to realise her mouse was malfunctioning there was a moment of silence and then a…. “Gaaahhh this is the last thing I need my stupid mouse won’t fucking move”… and then… BAM! She cracked it at her computer! The frustration that came out of her for a solid twenty seconds was so bloody funny, I struggled to hold my breath before I pissed myself laughing!
Then I hear a “SHUT UP SAM, THIS IS NOT FUNNY! WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING, I DON’T HAVE A SPARE ONE JUST LYING AROUND YOU KNOW!!!”.
Then… Ooh no… She threw the mouse across the table! The note under it revealed two words…
Picture me crying from laughter!
Pretty funny eh? I swear you had to be there!
In the end, we both laughed. Apparently she’s going to get me back when I least expect it. BRING IT I say.
So with this, I’m going to ask you to think about yourself, are you considered a serious person? Do you believe that you HAVE TO act a certain way because you have certain responsibilities in life? For example, you manage a team at work, you’re a parent with responsibilities, or you’ve got to behave your age and not your shoe size just because that’s what others expect of you.
Perfectionism can be a great quality, but sometimes it can be a self-defeating behavior, and in a way, it’s an inauthentic way to live life. After all, we all enjoy a little bit of harmless humor don’t we?
Being perfect all the time is so bloody exhausting!
Think of a time when you’ve “been (harmlessly) bad”, because here’s a lesson that one of my mentors taught me…
Laughter is the best medicine.
When you’re fully in a moment of hysterical laughter, you forget during that period of time about how ‘person x’ upset you, that ‘person y’ that did something spiteful, the current troubles you’re facing, etc.
The crap that life throws at you fades away in that moment.
So go on… Have a think about how you can be (harmlessly) bad every now and again 🙂
And remember – Be happy. Be true. Be you.
Love and light,
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P.P.S – The information in this blog was adapted from what I learned during my studies with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, the worlds largest nutrition school.